What’s your name?

Roots run deep

Never forget, roots run deep.

[Excerpt from my new book soon in a bookstore near you…“Home Bound: Lead at Home in 6 Intentional Steps”]

I recently came across a very interesting but sad description of a family’s lineage. Dr. Kevin Leman* describes his as ‘A Well-Watered Ancestry’. This is not to be confused with the charming, progressive, and healthy type of ancestry. “I come from a long line of drinkers,” says Dr. Leman. “Virtually all Lemans enjoyed slugging down a few cold ones. Okay, not a few. Many.” Not many people I know desire to provide such an ancestry or build a similar foundation for their family.

When we first discovered that we were going to become parents, the joy I felt is indescribable. My heart nearly burst with pride. I was going to be a father! However, questions ravaged my poor mind like a bad storm and tore at my innards like the worst tornado ever. Would I be a good father? How would I take care of the growing family? What if I lost my job, then what? Will the baby ‘steal’ my time with my wife? Would my employer insist on sending me out on mission for extended periods? And many more!

My mind was desperately trying to answer, “What is your name?” It was a desperate attempt to begin molding the definition of my family and the identity that would be its anchor.

To appreciate where we were coming from, we will have to go back to the beginning. Like Dr. Leman, I too had a ‘well-watered’ ancestry, especially on my father’s side. My grandfather loved the tipple, I have no recollection of a single night he came home sober during those days we would be visiting him and my grandmother. My uncle and two aunties also partied hard. Alcohol was a feature in any of our family events, it is a miracle that some of us did not end up thoroughly imbibed at a very tender age!

With this background, I had to break traditions that were not healthy for my life and that of my new family too. It was time to reclaim the dignity of the name. This identity would go against common-speak and stand out for its resilience, integrity, and above all, a spirit of servant-leadership.

Naming our children was not going to be routine, it was not a labeling process. It was a re-birth of my wife and I. We were going to bestow a legacy upon our children. From birth they were going to walk in the promise, a promise that they were made for greatness. Please note that, in greatness, I do not necessarily mean they will become celebrities or some beings with an elevated status. I would not mind if they did, but this was not the primary focus.

Their names were just the first step to a future where they would become people that matter. They would become pillars of hope in a world of pain, deceit, poverty, and mediocrity.

How are you taking charge of leadership in your home? What deliberate steps are you making to become that intentional leader your family deserves?


* Dr. Kevin Leman, What a Difference a Daddy Makes: The indelible Imprint a Dad Leaves on His Daughter’s Life (Nashville: Thomas Nelson Publishers, 2000), 72.
 
“For unto us a Child is born, Unto us a Son is given; And the government will be upon His shoulder. And His name will be called Wonderful, Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace.” Isaiah 9:6
 

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  • The honesty and practicality of this piece bodes well for the overall content of the book. The image and addition of music incite more enthusiasm concerning the project. Please be sure to let us all know about the launch date of “Home Bound: Lead at Home in 6 Intentional Steps”.

    • Thank you for your encouragement that goes a long way as this is my first book ever, straight from the heart. I will definitely keep you posted on the launch. Happy holidays 🙂

  • A very captivating story that brings out a serious reality of the importance of building lasting family values on the foundation of christian faith. I have learnt and this story has further emphasized that without God’s guidance, I cannot be the parent I am destined to be (Deuteronomy 6). By instilling values in our children while they are still young and impressing upon them the need to make these their way of life, they are better placed to make good and responsible decisions in their life. Afterall, doesn’t scripture call on us to “train up a child in the way that he should go and when he is older, he shall not depart from it”? Thank you for sharing this story. Looking forward to the complete book.

    • Evelyn, thank you for being part of the story of change. Indeed it is an exciting journey, challenging but worth every part of the ride. Wishing you well, and you’ll definitely get a copy of the book 🙂

  • Breaking generational curses is awesome! Role Modeling is significant for our children. Will be a good read.

    • Thanks for stopping by. Watch this space for the book launch. Blessings!